Valentine’s Day

Cynthia L. Eppley 02/12/2022

Valentine’s Day Past

It is that time of year when love is in the air….Valentine’s Day!
I’ll get to that soon. For now, travel back in time with me to Jan. 1974.
My childhood friend, Cindy Bennett was getting married, and I was in the wedding.
By that time Bob was my fiancee and we anxiously awaited our own marriage in May.
The morning of Cindy’s wedding I woke up and felt sick.
Really sick.
In fact, I vomited in the trashcan.
Tears quickly followed as I wondered how I was going to get through the day?
Bob came to my side with a damp washcloth. Wiping my face tenderly, he assured me we would get through it.
He brushed my hair back from my face.

Further in the Past….

It seems that the celebration of Valentine’s Day has a history.

“Valentine’s Day also called Saint Valentine’s Day or the Feast of Saint Valentine, is celebrated annually on February 14. It originated as a Christian feast day honoring one or two early Christian martyrs named Saint Valentine and, through later folk traditions, has become a significant cultural, religious, and commercial celebration of romance and love in many regions of the world.”


Who can forget the Valentine’s Box of yesteryear? A brightly decorated box took a prominent position in the classroom.
Students anxiously watched as friends took their cards up and deposited them in the slot. Would there be one for me?

Would it be “special”?

Valentine’s cards could be purchased in packs, generally enough for each child in the classroom—including one for the teacher. Themed cards reflected the cartoons of the day. Parents trudged to the store to buy “just the right pack.”
Buzz Lightyear, Transformers, Cinderella, Frozen, you name it.

Valentine’s Day in the Present

“Many people have a kind of love-hate relationship with Valentine’s Day: the holiday is disparaged as a manufactured holiday foisted upon us by greeting card companies, and there’s often a sense that it’s only for people who are romantically paired, making it feel rooted in exclusion.”
You might think Valentine’s Day was the peak of anticipation and excitement.

“Order your favorite Valentine’s gift now.”

Bring on the sweetness (and the cheesy) for Valentine’s! We have lots of specials items available—honeys, cheeses and, of course, chocolates and locally-made cookies.”

Videos of how to make heart shaped cupcakes, with lots of pink and white icing.

“It’s not too late! Order by 4pm to get your gifts for Valentine’s Day!”


I might add a thought from Shakespeare: A strawberry by any other name would still be sweet. More to the point, any other time of the year they are just……strawberries.
But this time of year? Coat them in chocolate, add some sprinkles or embellishments, and they are “Valentine worthy.”

And who doesn’t love chocolate covered strawberries?

Speaking of Chocolate….

I must confess, chocolate is a favorite. Dark chocolate. And if it is a chocolate covered caramel?
Even better.
The custom of candy filled heart shaped boxes began in 1868 when Cadbury developed it. It is popular to this day, in any number of variations and themes.


And where would we be without the popular red rose?
Roses, at any time of year are popular, but on Valentine’s Day? They are sought after, and of course, the price goes up.

Tie it in with poetry:
“Roses are red, violets are blue. Sugar is sweet and so are you.”

If you can’t wax poetic yourself, surely there’s a card for that.

Galentine’s Day

And for those without a romantic attachment, or in some cases even if they have a romantic partner? There is always “Galentine’s Day.”
Galentine’s Day, formed by a blend of gal and Valentine’s Day, is a day in which women celebrate their female friendships. The new holiday debuted in a 2010 episode of Parks and Recreation. The term is also seeing increased use in celebrating any kind of friendship, not just those among women.”

Love in the Present

My health has been on the edge in the past 15 months. Many signs and symptoms, but it is very hard to pin down.
This came to a head as I headed into a medical procedure yesterday.
Never easy, these procedures can test our patience and fortitude.

Sometimes the procedures and preparation are ghastly.
(And please understand dear reader, I do not mean to trivialize those who suffer with countless ailments and disease.)
But as I was enduring the preparation, I knew this would not be good. It was just a matter of time…..
I headed to the kitchen and promptly vomited all over the floor. Quickly followed by christening the bathroom floor.
Innumerable towels were used for cleanup.
Not to mention clothes being washed and changes of clothing.
Wash and repeat. Wash at 3am. Transferring to dryer at 4am.


Why do I bore you with the details? (Stay with me here….)
I do it to emphasize the beauty of being married to my husband: 48 years this May. As I was hurling into the trashcan, he was patiently wiping up the floors. The kitchen. The bathroom.
Cleaning them up.
Folding the laundry. I lost track of how many loads.

Wiping my furrowed brow.
And telling me: “We’ll get through this.”
Certainly we’ve had our share of struggles and burdens.
But the stuff of life has not torn us apart; and now we encourage and support one another, even in times of sickness and health. Commitment has taken us through the years.

And so on this Valentine’s Day?
Cards, chocolates, flowers are all extra.
Romantic love is one thing.
Give me the man that I knew back in 1974 to be a Servant.
A man after God’s own heart.
A man who loves me and serves me in the pits of life, as well as the soaring heights.
I’ll take him any day.
And when my stomach feels up for it? Maybe I’ll take some chocolate covered caramels.

Published by Counseling from a Christian View

Counselor, Teacher, Wife, Mother and Grandmother. It is a privilege to serve God. All my roles have taught me more about God's grace and mercy. And all of life is counseling.

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